Hello world!
Whats happening people. I am sitting in my living room cosied up in christmas get up enjoying the lights on the tree and the soothing sounds of my boyfriend blowing up zombies on the xbox. At least I think thats what he is doing I rarely pay attention.
ANYWAY!
I realised a couple of days ago that I have been behaving a certain way for a while. And though this behaviour is not a DIRECT result of, it is partly due to something my dad said to me a while back.
Trust me I hate to admit this. Admitting my father is right about something is more painful then having my fingers chewed off by rats that aren't even hungry, with the entire affair being narrated loudly by jedward. But he was right about this, THERE YOU GO DAD ARE YOU HAPPY NOW? ugh.
Being happy in life really pisses other people off, and that is fantastic.
Let me elaborate. At some point in your life you will have been arguing with someone and found something they said really funny. If you at that point smiled or laughed during the argument that person would then get REALLY REALLY MAD and you would most likely win the argument. thats because when someone is arguing with you and trying to make you unhappy you being happy anyway is possibly the most annoying thing that could happen.
I have started to apply this philosophy to my everyday life without even realising it until very recently. Like if there is somebody present in my life who does not like me or tries to make me miserable, I showcase my happiness in front of them and they literally cant stand it. People have walked out of conversations mid-sentence with me when this happens. And of course you are doing absolutely nothing wrong to do that! you are not retaliating to their childish behaviour or enacting any kind of reaction apart from ignoring them and being better off for it. and that is how you win. At everything. Ever.
Now one other part of this is that it can be faked. as much as this is much heard advice it really does work, pretend you aren't affected by what someone says, in fact do the opposite! If someone tries to bully you and say crappy things act even happier! Even if you don't feel so inside if you can fake it enough to get them to believe you they are going to be incredibly pissed off. And then if you are a vindictive person on the inside like me them being pissed off will make you genuinely happy! and its a beautiful little cycle of your happiness and their irritation.
Of course this is quite a simplified view of things and I'm pretty sure it won't apply to a lot of cases, but for me it definitely does work and I am so much better of for it. I can still win in all of my bitch wars without lifting a finger or looking even slightly bad as I'm not retaliating in the slightest. Who said winning was hard?
Anyway I'm off to go laugh at babies falling over on the internet!
Love Frankles xxxxx
Whats happening people. I am sitting in my living room cosied up in christmas get up enjoying the lights on the tree and the soothing sounds of my boyfriend blowing up zombies on the xbox. At least I think thats what he is doing I rarely pay attention.
ANYWAY!
I realised a couple of days ago that I have been behaving a certain way for a while. And though this behaviour is not a DIRECT result of, it is partly due to something my dad said to me a while back.
Trust me I hate to admit this. Admitting my father is right about something is more painful then having my fingers chewed off by rats that aren't even hungry, with the entire affair being narrated loudly by jedward. But he was right about this, THERE YOU GO DAD ARE YOU HAPPY NOW? ugh.
Being happy in life really pisses other people off, and that is fantastic.
Let me elaborate. At some point in your life you will have been arguing with someone and found something they said really funny. If you at that point smiled or laughed during the argument that person would then get REALLY REALLY MAD and you would most likely win the argument. thats because when someone is arguing with you and trying to make you unhappy you being happy anyway is possibly the most annoying thing that could happen.
I have started to apply this philosophy to my everyday life without even realising it until very recently. Like if there is somebody present in my life who does not like me or tries to make me miserable, I showcase my happiness in front of them and they literally cant stand it. People have walked out of conversations mid-sentence with me when this happens. And of course you are doing absolutely nothing wrong to do that! you are not retaliating to their childish behaviour or enacting any kind of reaction apart from ignoring them and being better off for it. and that is how you win. At everything. Ever.
Now one other part of this is that it can be faked. as much as this is much heard advice it really does work, pretend you aren't affected by what someone says, in fact do the opposite! If someone tries to bully you and say crappy things act even happier! Even if you don't feel so inside if you can fake it enough to get them to believe you they are going to be incredibly pissed off. And then if you are a vindictive person on the inside like me them being pissed off will make you genuinely happy! and its a beautiful little cycle of your happiness and their irritation.
Of course this is quite a simplified view of things and I'm pretty sure it won't apply to a lot of cases, but for me it definitely does work and I am so much better of for it. I can still win in all of my bitch wars without lifting a finger or looking even slightly bad as I'm not retaliating in the slightest. Who said winning was hard?
Anyway I'm off to go laugh at babies falling over on the internet!
Love Frankles xxxxx
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